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Dealing with People who are a PAIN
Most bad behavior is caused by pain. Realizing that makes it easier to deal with ‘difficult’ people. It IS tempting to take it personally when we are verbally attacked or slighted – thinking that...
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Frustrated? Find a new option
Everyday there will be challenges, troubles, detours, and opportunities. In solving both the big and the small problems of your life, look at the options before settling for the first solution that...
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Snarky Snippy “Social” Media
We say we are now a "global village." Yes and no. In a real village, NO ONE was anonymous. If you sneezed at 1 AM in the basement of your home, the entire village would ask about your health the next...
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Bad Boss: Confront or Quit?
My Colleague and fellow CSP, John Hersey, writes an excellent Leadership Blog. In this edition, he asks what do we do about lousy bosses. I admire John greatly and usually he’s right on. This time, he...
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Family Holiday Pressure Cooker?
Everything is relative, including our relatives. We wish we had a fairytale family where everyone gets along and differences are slight. Unfortunately for many, one day into the holidays there’s...
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The Trouble is in the Gap
We all have Gaps in our lives, and therein lies The Trouble. Some of the Gaps are between: Expectations and Reality Money we have and money we need Information we have and the Facts Intention and...
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Mom 3.0 ~ Aging Gracefully
Most women deal with the hidden fear we will turn into our mothers. Even if we get along with our moms and think they’re great, we still want to avoid it at all costs. This is the hidden driver behind...
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Just One More…
We all did it. We all pulled ourselves up on the nearest piece of furniture and tried to walk. Some of us didn’t bother to crawl first. We got around by rolling. Wheeee! But, barring early childhood...
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On Grief ~ Renewal ~ Resurrection
For two months I have slogged through life. Some days brighter than others. Still doing my job. Still able to “show up” on stage and be present for others. But my heart hasn’t been in it. I wouldn’t...
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Married to Pain
We are so attached to our wounds. Many years ago I read a Discover Magazine article that said we tend to be proud of our wounds. We drag them out and show them to each other as badges of honor and...
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How to Succeed: Embrace Imperfection!
Hawaii, with its Asian influence, has afforded many deep insights into finding peace and happiness within. A concept I heard decades ago has crossed my path half a dozen times this year: Wabi Sabi. A...
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How to Not Shoot Yourself in the Foot
“It may be helpful for you to consider the fact that to permit stupid thoughts to dwell and slip through the mind is as dangerous as letting sharp delicate tools slip through the fingers.” Mary Strong,...
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If you don’t tell them, they make it up!
Humans are ornery creatures, and we are a curious species. We take all information available to us, then we fill in the blanks. Therein lies the problem in human relations. Filling in the blanks is...
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Parallel Universes Revisited
Do you believe in Parallel Universes? I do. You would say yes if you think about it. I pipe in relaxing music when I’m getting a room ready for a speaking or training session. This time I played a...
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It’s no big thing…
Valentines and elections, Marriages and lives … All are lost from little things, not big. Each decision we make impacts our lives for the long haul. We are the only person in the world who is 100%...
View ArticleGet Back on the Horse!
I slipped and fell in an airport and broke three vertebrae in my neck. The next year was a blur. Surgeries, neck brace, lost voice, lost time on the speaking circuit, lost my memory for a bit. Found my...
View ArticleSmall Towns: The Good, the Bad, the Ugly
Common wisdom is that small towns are great places for kids to grow up. Yes and No. My first town had a population of 70, the next one was 800, and the next was 5,000. When my very large family...
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